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.Ben Affleck and Jennifer Lopez have been in a longterm relationship

.Ben Affleck and Jennifer Lopez have been in a longterm relationship

We asked some of our favorite dating experts to share their tips and tricks of the trade for navigating the modern dating world. Read on to find out what they recommend in the dating game.

1. Tell a single person you like them.

If you have a crush on a single person you see but don't know them, it's hard to know if you should tell them. But if you tell them, maybe they'll say yes! said Amanda Cramer, author of the book Simplified: Your Life, Your Love and Why It Just Works. "If someone likes you, you can be confident in telling them. If they don't like you, they probably wouldn't want to be the first person to tell you. You don't want to make a fool out of yourself."

2. Be ready to make your own fun.

If you're single and meeting people in bars and clubs, Cramer recommends asking yourself what you want in a partner before deciding where you'll go:

"What if you are interested in having a long-term serious relationship, and the person you are talking to is just there to have fun? How are you going to know the difference? You can call someone a non-date or a date. So if you aren't going out to find a partner, then ask yourself, 'What do I want? What do I want to have as my partner? What kind of relationship do I want?' And go to the places where you can meet those people."

3. Go to meetups and events to meet people.

It doesn't have to be a serious event. It can be something as simple as a bar crawl. Go to events that are more your speed—like karaoke parties or skydiving clubs. If you're introverted, go to a lake party. Don't just go to a place where you want to be social; go to places that will make you feel comfortable and promote conversation.

"One of the most important steps in dating is building an honest connection," said Jennifer Gray, dating coach and author of The Define-You Diet. "People don't need dates, they need friends." So make a friend of the situation. Reach out to people you don't already know, and ask about their lives. Set the stage for the next steps you will take with that person, and find ways to help them get to know you better.

4. Don't just go with your gut
Whether you're looking to meet someone new or you just want to date more, these tips and tricks will help you set yourself apart from all the other boring guys and girls out there.

Make an app-based dating profile

Millions of people use online dating sites and apps, including Match, OkCupid, and Tinder, to find a date. The problem is, these sites are filled with people who want to connect with someone nearby (i.e. the anonymity they see in apps like Tinder makes them more comfortable). But if you're looking for a long-term relationship, it's probably best to keep things casual.

Instead, use an app-based dating site, like the ones I mentioned above, to add to your profile and pick up guys who are a bit further away. Put out a quick signal (like checking your phone) when you head out to catch a bite to eat or head into a bar, and use it to flag your top picks. You'll have no doubt of who's the most attractive guy in the room.

Making a real-life online dating profile

One way to ensure that you're the most attractive man or woman in the room is to make your online dating profile look, well, like a real person. Though there are plenty of profiles out there that are straight up cheesy—and that's usually a bad thing—creating an attractive profile that makes you stand out is crucial.

In other words, you'll want to look at your profile as a billboard for your good looks and personality. Remove the cover-up that is a veil in your real life, and show off your best attributes—your eyes, smile, hair color, haircut, and all.

And while a real-life profile is great for attracting a lot of attention, it may also be helpful to use online dating sites (especially sites with a mobile app) to set up the first date. Do your best to make the first interaction feel exclusive, like you're looking for someone special. Say things like "I've been looking forward to our next date."

If you're using a dating site, you can further your "quality" by setting up a second account on a different platform, and making sure the ones you're matching with on one are the same ones you're following on the other.

Pick people who are healthy and attractive

You have no doubt heard dating horror stories where people who didn't put much thought into their choices wound

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